The Wisdom of the Heart and Mind
A Therapy & Coaching Service
What if your anxiety, people-pleasing, or self-doubt… isn’t about now?
You are Frustrated by the Similarities in the People you are Choosing. And You Don't Know Why.
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You give everything. They take it all. You set boundaries—then watch yourself cross them.
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You know what healthy love should look like. But when it's time to choose it, something inside you pulls you back toward what's familiar. Painful. Confusing.
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This isn't about willpower. It's about your nervous system, your attachment patterns, and wounds you didn't even know you were carrying.
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I'm Kahila, a therapist-trained relational coach who helps people break the painful cycles that keep them stuck in relationships that hurt.
Healing Workbook: Emotions & The Nervous System
Are you ready to break free from cycles of stress, emotional overwhelm, or relational challenges? This workbook is your ultimate guide to understanding and transforming the way you navigate emotions and relationships. With actionable exercises, somatic healing practices, and tools for personal growth, you’ll learn how to:
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Reconnect with yourself and create emotional balance.
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Build stronger, healthier relationships by identifying and shifting old patterns.
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Find clarity and calm through practical, proven techniques for healing.
WHO I HELP
This Is For You If...
You're exhausted from:
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Attracting the same type of person over and over—emotionally unavailable, narcissistic, or just... wrong for you
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Losing yourself in relationships, overgiving, people-pleasing, abandoning your own needs
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Feeling anxious and insecure even when things seem "good"
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Not trusting your own judgment anymore after being gaslit, manipulated, or blamed
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Repeating your parents' relationship patterns, even though you swore you never would
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Staying stuck in toxic dynamics because leaving feels impossible
You've read the books.
You've tried to "just choose better." But insight alone doesn't change patterns that live in your body and nervous system.
"I have never in my life met someone so devoted with passion to bring the light of womens power into the eyes of their own. Someone who will never take full credit because she ‘only walked by your side and helped one foot in front of the other’ but psshhhh to that is what I tell her lol. She is unlike any other and I will forever be grateful for the many things I learned."
-B.S.
Testimonials
One of the best things about her is how she challenged me throughout our sessions. I always felt heard and understood but admired how she would never appease me or tell me what I wanted to hear. Instead, she asked the right questions that helped me get to know myself and see things in a way I hadn’t before which led me to develop confidence within.
-C.C.
"I never even knew where to begin with building my confidence before meeting Kahila. I feel so lucky to have been able to start my self-discovery journey with her guidance and support. She is passionate about this work and I would recommend her to anyone looking to become the best version of themselves."
-S.C.
What we carry emotionally often shapes what we believe we deserve.
With more than ten years of experience as a relational and trauma-focused therapist, I help you release old stories and reconnect with your sense of worth, safety, and self-trust.
Begin Your Healing Journey Today – Book a Free Consultation.
Hi, I am Kahila
From Therapist to Your Relational Coach
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Hi, I'm Kahila Hedayatzadeh, M.A.,
I spent over a decade as a licensed relational and trauma therapist before transitioning to coaching so I could work with people around the world, not just those in my state.
I don't believe in "fixing" you. You're not broken.
However, I do believe that the patterns keeping you stuck were learned in relationships, and they can only be healed in relationships.
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My approach combines:
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Deep relational work (not just surface advice)
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Nervous system regulation and somatic practices
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Attachment theory and trauma-informed guidance
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Real-time emotional processing—not just talking about feelings
This isn't traditional therapy or life coaching. This is transformational relational work that helps you understand WHY you do what you do, and gives you the tools to choose differently.
